Reassessing and Refining Your Standards as You Grow

Why You Know Your Standards — But Still React the Old Way

You know your standards. You’ve done the inner work.
So why do you still find yourself reacting in ways that don’t match who you’re becoming?

In Part 11 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down why knowing your standards is just the beginning. The real transformative change actually happens in the moment, not in theory.

This episode is for the woman who understands her values, boundaries, and is beginning to raise her standards — yet still notices old reactions  and patterns surface under emotional activation.

This episode explores: 

✅ Why insight alone doesn’t change behavior
✅ How our decision making happens from two "Systems" according to Daniel Kahneman’s System 1 vs. System 2 Theory. 
✅ Why self-blame keeps women stuck — and why it’s scientifically inaccurate
✅ The gap between awareness and action
✅ The micro-moment framework by Chris Oh, which is the split-second identity choice where real change happens
✅ How identity, not willpower, drives lasting change
✅ How self-trust is built through repeated moments of alignment
✅ What it really means to live by your standards in real time

Chris shares how this micro-moment shows up for her like a brief internal movie scene where two versions of herself appear:

➡️ the old self, driven by familiarity and reassurance
➡️ the self I’m becoming, grounded in self-loyalty and standards

And in that moment, the real question isn’t “What should I do?”
It’s “Which version of me am I choosing to lead right now?”

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.